Wednesday, 28 October 2009

Being A High Value Male.....

As I type this I'm getting ready for a date with a law student I've organised through the wondrous world of online dating. I have a picture of her, a phone number and a meeting place! I wanted to put a post up for men who have read my last few posts and are wondering what I mean by High Value Male....
This is a very important attribute you need to project when you attract any women. If you don't view yourself as high value then how is she going to view you?
What we are taught to do as men is impress women. thats how we get them - we impress them. We are taught to buy them things and we are taught to impress them by "showing off" and because of this we give women all the power in social situations. Enter the high value male. The high value male knows what he is worth to the world, his friends, his family and other women. He knows that he doesn't have to show off or prove his worth to anyone because he is already high value. If you can convey this then women will be lining up at your door because you are different from the other "try to impress me" men.
So, what are the characteristics of a high value male then? How do we convey this? through some very simple methods....
1) Make statements and do not ask questions about her. By making statements you are giving your opinion. Whether this is right or wrong it really doesn't matter. You are high value and you are demonstrating you are by showing your opinion. This DOES NOT mean you have to be loud, aggressive or forthright. You just need to show you have an opinion and the best way is statements
2) Every room he walks into is HIS. He is comfortable with all the people and the environment he is in. He isn't afraid to talk to people and give his worldly opinion
3) He builds up Rapport (very important this) by empathising with the woman he is talking to NOT by agreeing with everything she says. A common misconception amongst us men is that we need to agree with women and they will like us more. If you agree then agree, if you don't then don't agree. Simple. You don't need to shout, argue or debate you just give your reasons as to why you don't agree. As a high value male when you empathise with a woman - you are putting yourself in her shoes, imagining what it is like to be her. She will really appreciate this and you will be different from most "yes men" she has met, instantly. It is logical to assume that if you want someone to like you more then you agree with them. That makes sense. Attraction isn't logical though. Women are emotional creatures and don't go with logic when they are being attracted so empathise. More after the date later guys...please sign-up, follow and comment. Cupid

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